There’s one phrase from Jonathan and I’s marriage counseling that will always stick with me: “Marriage, at its very best, is hard work.” I’d like to tweak that just a bit and say, “Relationships, at their very best, are hard work.” Let’s look outside of the scope of just love and intimacy. Take a look at the relationships you have with your friends, your parents, your coworkers. What state are those relationships in? How much work are both sides putting into it?
As I sat and though about Valentine’s Day this week I thought, “Man, I need to work on my relationships.” I noticed that I had begun to grumble about never getting to see my friends, not spending enough time with my parents, not having patience with my husband, and struggling to even tolerate some of the people I interacted with on a day-to-day basis. It wasn’t until I thought back to those words from our marriage counseling sessions that I realized I knew the reason these relationships weren’t growing; I wasn’t putting work into them – let alone hard work.