Love is hard…work.


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There’s one phrase from Jonathan and I’s marriage counseling that will always stick with me: “Marriage, at its very best, is hard work.” I’d like to tweak that just a bit and say, “Relationships, at their very best, are hard work.” Let’s look outside of the scope of just love and intimacy. Take a look at the relationships you have with your friends, your parents, your coworkers. What state are those relationships in? How much work are both sides putting into it?

As I sat and though about Valentine’s Day this week I thought, “Man, I need to work on my relationships.” I noticed that I had begun to grumble about never getting to see my friends, not spending enough time with my parents, not having patience with my husband, and struggling to even tolerate some of the people I interacted with on a day-to-day basis. It wasn’t until I thought back to those words from our marriage counseling sessions that I realized I knew the reason these relationships weren’t growing; I wasn’t putting work into them – let alone hard work.

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Home is the nicest word there is.

Yesterday my husband and I got to celebrate American’s birthday at our favorite place, home.

We love our home. We’ve lived there for a year and a half now, and we’re still working on various projects to make it our “own”. All the work we’ve put into it already makes it so worth coming home to at the end of the day. It’s fun to look back at pictures of when we first bought it and see all the changes and personal touches we’ve made to it already!

Home is our favorite place to be together, but lately it feels like it’s our least visited and most neglected place. We’ve been in a season of traveling, camping, late work nights, and all the fun busyness that summer brings. Even the days when one of us would be home, it seemed like the other always had something going on.

So yesterday, after several weeks of going non-stop, we got to enjoy the entire day at home. Together. And it was fantastic.

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